Communication in relationships is the exchange of information between two partners. To talk about those two things you must learn to communicate to your partner in a relationship, it is pertinent to understand the concept of communication and the skills required thereof.
You might be wondering why we have to talk about this, of course it sounds like something you are used to hearing about but I have something different to talk about and they are the two important things you must learn to communicate to your partner are:
- Learn to communicate to your partner when you are excited
- And secondly, learn to communicate to your partner when you are displeased
Doing these things is of great importance in relationships of which we will also be talking about why it is important. Like I mentioned earlier, the two aspects we will be talking about today is communicating when you are happy and when you are not.
Learn to Communicate to your partner when you are excited
One of the things you must learn to communicate to your partner is recognizing it when she/he does something that excites you no matter how little or insignificant it seems. Tell your partner how he/she makes you feel.
Talk about those incredible moments, tell your partner how he/she brings the butterflies in your belly. Take note of those things he/she does that makes you happy and show how much you appreciate them.
Some people don’t really show it when their partner excites them, you know why? They say they don’t want their partners to “feel him/herself too much”, really? At this dispensation?
How on earth is your partner supposed to know you appreciate all he/she does, don’t you know that such can bring about weariness? If not weariness, they are not even sure you are enjoying it and might just stop doing it.
Then you start saying your relationship is not the way it used to be, of which you are indirectly the cause. You don’t recognize it when your partner has done something exciting but you can complain when you are displeased, it’s not done.
Recognition and appreciation of efforts helps your partner to know what excites you and encourages the fellow to do more.
And secondly, Learn to communicate to your partner when you are displeased.
As much as it is good to recognize lovely and exciting moments in your relationship, it is also important to let you know that you don’t only show appreciation when you are happy, but always show discontentment whenever your partner displeases you.
Don’t ever think you are a fault finder when you have to tell when you are displeased. There is a difference between finding fault and drawing attention to what you don’t like.
Not opening up in time will only make you end up as a fault finder you never wanted to be. Reason being that, accumulation of unpleasant moments you never resolved or corrected will make you get irritated at any little thing subsequently. It is only because you’ve failed to speak up at the necessary time.
Not speaking up in time will make you start noting mistakes as habits even when they are not, it is simply because you are always irritated just because of the mentality you now carry.
You should note what annoys you so that it doesn’t repeat itself hence you begin to see it as an habit you can’t cope with. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about and what that thought could lead to.
You are therefore encouraged to correct your partner with love so that you don’t go about searching for what is not missing.
Note: There is a thin line between being a fault finder and opening up. Don’t be arrogant while relating what displeased you, but rather be polite, talk with respect and be reasonable.
These are the two important things you must learn to communicate to your partner.
Why it is necessary to talk about the important things you must learn to communicate to your partner is that :
It makes your bond really strong. You might be wondering how? Well it does you good as a person as well especially psychologically.
We are humans and there is a way we are wired.It is good to talk about what excites us so as to encourage your partner to continue and that you appreciate it and also to remind yourself that you’ve got the perfect partner.
If you are always cognizant of your partner’s good deeds and appreciate them, it will increase their value in your sight.
Some people appreciate outsiders than their partner even though their partner is way far better than them, the problem is just because communication is lacking.
This can easily make relationships crumble because you’ve begun to see someone better, not because they are in the real sense but it’s because you are too used to your partner and hence does not see his/her sacrifice as a big deal.
Then you start making comparisons, and start making deadly wishes. You might try to pretend because you’ve overcome several times, but check the last time you appreciated someone else’s partner and see them to be better, it must be because you are getting too used to your partner and you couldn’t see when he/she has done their best.
One of the dangers of this is that, at the moment when you began to nurse those thoughts of how someone seems to be better than your partner, you can’t flow with your partner and it could be dangerous.
Do not be deceived by outward appearance or what you see from afar, your partner is better only if you recognize his/her sacrifice and appreciate then someone else wouldn’t have seemed better.
Having discussed the two important things you must learn to communicate to your partner, I indulge you to put it into practice and see that it really works but be cautious so that you don’t abuse it and that is why acquiring communication skills is important.
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